I'm so sorry that people are such total and complete assholes! I have had my posts reblogged by anti-choicers and it is so hurtful... I can't even imagine how you must feel since they seem to think it's appropriate to comment on *your* gender. People really need to get over their issues and realize that the only person that can assign a gender role (or choose to simply disregard them) is the person themselves. Its not for anyone else to decide. Hope you know you have a cis-ally here in PDX!

omg thank you so much. you’re lovely for sending me this.

i really am a live-and-let-live kind of person, and i hate feeling this way toward other people. but i don’t think it’s out of line to wish for a little respect, and i don’t think that excuses such as “it’s the internet” or “all females should be aware that this can happen” are valid arguments.

my blog often is nsfw, because i put pictures of people i find beautiful in various states of undress and sex. … i put photos of myself online on a regular basis as well, and some of them are of a more sexual, sensual nature. it would be naïve of me to think they won’t be taken that way. and honestly, i appreciate the attention and the idea that someone finds me beautiful and desirable. … but i want that attraction to be out of love and caring and understanding and an appreciation that i’m more complex and dynamic than some fantasy, especially one in which the idea of being a woman is degrading or shameful in some way. i’m girlish and submissive and delicate because that’s just my natural personality, but i’m very proud of who i am.

thank you again. btw, i *adore* portland. can’t wait to get back there someday. ^^